This type of hurt, bickering, and bad feelings is often caused because a partner has a particular idea of what love is and how it gets expressed, often taken from early childhood expressions of love from parents in the form of gifts. When these expectations are then placed on the person’s partner, both people end up feeling hurt. The expectant person feels hurt because their expectation wasn’t met, and the partner feels hurt because their attempts were not appreciated, or worse, were rejected. I often suggest to couples that they limit the cost of gifts to something affordable for them as a couple, and accept the wish beneath the gift as one of love, rather than valuing the item, per say.
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