Creating a second marriage with a new spouse can be an occasion for celebration and starting over. But successfully bringing together the children from previous unions can be challenging. While you are anticipating a happy new life, the kids may be dealing with divided loyalties and unsettling, unfamiliar routines. Everyday decisions like going to school, living arrangements, or visiting relatives becomes complicated.
All of this can cause stress and strain on the new marriage. Divided loyalties and potential triangles can proliferate, and someone is usually in the middle. In a supporting, warm environment, PARC therapists will see the couple, the children or the whole family as needed to help you make your new union a successful one and to provide the foundation for a strong, loving blended family.
Licensed and certified PARC therapists have years of experience and training enabling them to provide you with a private, personal service that offers you an experience of respect, expertise, and support. Sessions with couples or with the entire family including ex-spouses, children and grandparents can be arranged as needed. PARC is flexible in devising the treatment plan that’s best for you and your family.
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Among the issues of concern for step-parents and blended families:
When there are two sets of parents, who has the ultimate authority over disciplinary issues? If a step-parent tells a step-child how to behave, a war can break out. Kids, as well as adults, can often become confused and troubled in this situation. PARC therapists can help you determine the proper course for guiding your children and sharing responsibility with your new spouse and former spouse.
Suddenly, a child has a brand-new brother or sister. How does the child deal with sharing their home and a parent with someone they barely know? PARC can help guide step-kids—one set or two sets—in adjusting and adapting to their new family configurations.
Money issues can cause trouble for any family. But when there are previous spouses and separate households involved, the potential for financial conflict escalates. Who pays for what? Which family is responsible for which child’s expenses? Experienced PARC therapists are here to help you sort out your money priorities and address the issues underlying the cash flow.
Even though you may be divorced, your child’s biological grandparents will probably still want to be a part of his or her life. The grandparents may be resentful of the new step-parent and rivalry may ensue. We can help you maintain the vital bond between grandparents and grandchildren while instilling respect for all.
Divorce is never easy and can sometimes be very painful, not only for the separating couple, but for the children. If you are embarking on a new relationship, dealing with an ex-partner can also cause numerous rifts. PARC therapists can provide the setting to address issues regarding your former partner while strengthening your new union at the same time. There is also the option of including an ex-spouse in the family treatment plan if you wish.
If you’re in a new marriage, having a child of your own can be a wonderful addition. But it can also cause issues of rivalry with children from previous unions. Our experienced therapists will help you consider all sides of this important decision and help you to navigate the problems that may arise.
This may be a fairy-tale fantasy, but young children sometimes have real resentment when a new mother enters their life. In sessions with or without the parents, children can explore their feelings on the big changes going on in their lives and embark on a path towards acceptance.
Family meetings are very important for all blended families, but for step-parents and kids, even holding these vital talks can be a challenge. PARC can help you start the process for this essential means of communication in a family meeting with a PARC therapist, who will then guide you in carrying the meetings out on your own.
Families can be a source of love and strength, but in-laws can sometimes cause rifts between couples. PARC therapists can help you calmly process your feelings about each other’s families and eliminate conflicts about them.
How do you amicably share custody of your child with an ex-spouse? How do you balance your feelings for your former mate so they don’t intrude on your new family? How does your divorce effect the new blended family? PARC’s experienced therapists can help navigate this difficult journey and find the right path for you and your children.