Commitment Troubles

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Commitment Troubles

One can infer that a female’s comfort level with commitment allows other components of personality to emerge. The man, however, frequently feels locked in by commitment. These characteristics are not always sex linked, as a woman may feel locked in as well.

As the social sophistications and allowances of the romantic phase tend to give way to conflict, the couple regresses to bouts of developmental fixation points. In reality, who we are, and how we behave affect the fate of any lasting relationship. This is what a man fears. He believes deep down that he will be expected to gratify the needs and expectations of his partner while being criticized for falling short. An unfair barter, for his now stolen autonomy.

Some men yearn to escape. They daily fantasize departing to a mountain-top apartment, set just below the clouds, with a grand view of the horizon. A young man, currently a friend of mine, rents a spacious similar loft-sized condo on the 72nd floor of a high rise overlooking the East River. On a clear evening, he could recline on his balcony and enjoy a breath-taking sight of microscopic cars dashing along a starry lit Tri-Borough Bridge. Snuggled just west of Central Park, however, no matter the magnificent location, one problem remained: high above civilization, he couldn’t spot any people.

One winter afternoon, a chill took over Central Park, freezing it into a Greenland resembling wonder-land. The man, feeling a bit tired and empty, decides to exchange the beautiful, yet lonely apartment, for an equally attractive blond bomb-shell, with blue eyes fierce enough to pierce his ailing heart. A book is tough to judge by its cover, and a femme fatale, this woman’s heart was cool and removed, making her emotions hard to impact.

Dr. Jerome Leff

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2017-07-17T05:57:45+00:00 Partner, Relationships, Sex|

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