How To Handle Guilt
The guilt that follows hurting someone you love is a horrible and overwhelming feeling. It can inspire self-loathing, which in turn lowers your self-esteem. It’s hard put an end to these emotions. Often people who [...]
3 Steps To Greater Intimacy
Relationships have their ups and downs. It’s normal that we sometimes feel disconnected to the people we love the most. The good news is that if you feel out of touch with your partner it [...]
5 Signs You Are Being Emotionally Abused
Are you being emotionally abused? The first step to getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship is to realize that you’re in one. But it can be difficult. Why? Emotional abuse takes many forms and [...]
5 Ways To Reinvigorate Your Marriage
You know how the usual marriage story goes. After a passionate beginning, husband and wife start to take their relationship for granted. Soon you forget to show how much you care about one another. Nagging [...]
Secrets To Successful Conflict Resolution
Conflict resolution. Why is it so important? Well, conflict arises in all meaningful relationships. In fact, whether the conflict arises between parent and child, between spouses, or between siblings, conflict is actually a key part [...]
Successful Co-Parenting – Do’s and Don’ts
After a difficult divorce, your roles shift dramatically. You are no longer a spouse, but you are still a parent. These changes will probably leave you with a key question: how will you get along [...]
What To Do If Your Lawyer Spouse Is Depressed
So you suspect your partner might be depressed? If they work in law, it is a distinct possibility. Depression in the US legal profession has become endemic. The statistics speak for themselves: depression among law [...]
How To Get Along With Your In-Laws
While some of us are blessed with in-laws that are easy to get along with, for many others, they come with a whole host of problems. Maybe your in-laws are too involved or love to [...]
5 Excellent Reasons To Get Premarital Counseling
Just got engaged? Premarital counseling is most likely the last thing on your mind. It seems so unromantic. After all, who wants to go digging up potential problems with their relationship during this exciting, heady [...]
Secrets To A Smooth Divorce
Divorce can be one of the most traumatic experiences in life. Emotions such as guilt, resentment, and fury can get the better of us. We might find ourselves losing touch with our rational side and [...]
How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
No one wants to go long-distance, right? You might be asking yourself, “is this person worth waiting for?” Surviving a long distance relationship may seem impossible. The months, or even years without regular physical contact [...]
5 Most Damaging Things You Can Do To Your Relationship
What’s the most damaging thing you can do to your relationship? Many people would probably say infidelity. But cheating is far from the only way we feel betrayed. There are a lot of other harmful [...]
How To Keep Your Relationship Strong After Having A Baby
There’s no denying it. With a newborn in the house, things between you and your partner will change forever. Having a baby is a momentous step. The transition from a relationship of two to a [...]
How To Cope When Your Partner Has Depression
One of the most difficult situations a couple can face is when one partner suffers from depression. Most of the attention is usually focused on the person with depression. But it’s important to recognize the [...]
How To Overcome Your Fears After Divorce
Divorce can be one of the most traumatic experiences of our lives. Once we’ve been through a divorce it can be terrifying to think about starting again. Often, fear of the unknown can hold us [...]
3 Top Reasons Why You’re Fighting Over The Holidays
Even though the holiday season can be a magical time of the year, it also has the reputation of being a stressful one. Couples have to fulfill social obligations, shop for presents, and in many [...]
3 Conversations To Have Before Getting Married
Right before getting married, when your relationship is still heady and full of wonder, you might hesitate to approach sensitive subjects. Perhaps you are shy, or you want to preserve the romantic magic. However, as [...]
Bonding With Stepchildren – 5 Simple Steps
So the divorce is over. The raw emotions are beginning to heal and now you’re finally ready to move on. You’ve met someone new. It looks like the start of a wonderful new chapter in [...]
3 Pillars Of A Strong Relationship
The ingredients for a happy, fulfilling relationship are different for every couple. Everybody has different needs. With that said, there is a science to building a strong relationship - partnership that is healthy, loving, and [...]
The Healthy Family Business – 6 Steps To Working Better Together
For much of history, the bulk of human enterprise stayed within the family – from the farmer’s children helping to plow the fields to princes learning the art of governance. However, while family businesses are [...]
Is Your Relationship Worth Saving? 4 Questions To Ask
By the time we’re adults, most of us learn that even the best relationships take work to maintain. Unfortunately, it often takes a bit longer to learn that there are also some relationships no amount [...]
5 Tips For A Long-Lasting Marriage
For many of us, our marriages are a huge part of our lives. But let’s face it, it’s not always sweet. Routine, career pressures, and raising kids can all present certain challenges to a marriage’s [...]
5 Things You Need To Know About Gaslighting
In the 1944 film The Gas Light, a husband deliberately manipulates his wife into believing that she is losing her sanity in order to gain control over her. Unfortunately, this is not just a fictional [...]
4 Steps To Surviving Infidelity
By Katherine Caputo, Google Author Of all the things someone can do to ruin a relationship, cheating is usually considered to be the most unforgivable. But if statistics are true, then nearly half of us [...]
Food Fights – How To Avoid Conflict
Turn on the TV during a political campaign, and chances are you’ll hear the ‘kitchen table’ cliche used to describe shared family decisions. But what happens when that kitchen table becomes a battleground? With vegetarian, [...]
Life Decisions Vs Your Relationship
There are points in all of our lives where we come to major life decisions that will greatly impact our future – switching jobs, moving to another city or country, or making some radical change [...]
So You Want To Stay Friends With Your Ex?
It’s been said that breakups are never easy, but one of the most difficult and confusing questions is one that comes after the fact – do you stay friends with your ex, cut off contact, [...]
Healthy Habits For Happiness
“Happiness” - what it means, how to achieve it - is in no way straightforward. With the demands of modern society weighing heavily upon us, it may feel like our “happiness” is far out of [...]
Being Single Again – Making It Work
Mary Kay Blakely once described divorce as “the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass” – a more apt analogy than you might think at first glance. Yes, divorce may seem as painful as heart [...]
Divorce and Children – How To Protect Them
It goes without saying that the emotional toll that divorce has on a couple can be significant. Whether or not the divorce was amicable or uncivil, the effects can be long-standing. Divorce and children, however, [...]
Achieving Better Work/Life Balance
Within a culture hellbent on getting results right here, right now, whatever the means, the contemporary workforce is struggling to balance personal and professional lives. Striking the perfect balance has become all the more challenging [...]
5 Steps To Dealing With A Breakup
So, it's finally over. There is no more "we" or "us", only "me" and "you". Dealing with a breakup can be a shattering experience. How do you go about rebuilding yourself after a relationship ends? [...]
Dealing With Difficult In-Laws
Any relationship between two people can be tricky to navigate at times - clashing communication styles, life goals or personality traits. So it should come as no surprise that relationship pressures increase when additional people [...]
How To Handle A Control Freak
Are you romantically involved with a control freak? If you're not sure, ask yourself a few questions, such as: Does your significant other get upset when they don't get their way? Do they get upset [...]
The Intricacies Of The Introvert
Dating can be a difficult task for anyone. You have to allow yourself to be open to new people and new situations. By putting yourself on the line, you choose to be vulnerable and exposed, [...]
Breaking Up In Today’s World
"Breaking up is hard to do", so the old song goes... but in 2015 it's even harder! In a technological society, the act of breaking up is merely the first step towards completely parting ways. [...]
Spring Clean Your Relationship!
Spring is officially here! The trees and flowers are shaking off the last bite of Jack Frost and they're ready to win us over with their charm. Spring offers the possibility of renewal with the [...]
The Rise of Gray Divorce
Getting divorced is no easy decision. Multiple factors come to a boiling point resulting in both partners deciding to end their marriage. During the proceedings, numerous elements have to be discussed and considered before anything [...]
Throw Your Anniversary A Curveball!
Another year, another day, another opportunity to show your partner how much they mean to you. For past anniversaries, you have done the usual dinner date, movie night and weekend trip. This year, why not [...]
Single on Valentine’s Day?
It's the New Year! The holidays are well and truly over and it’s time for a fresh start. You have your New Years resolutions set; you're ready to seize the year! Only now, your local [...]
Fix Your Relationship With A “Couple Bubble”!
Relationships can be fraught with frustrations, misunderstandings and conflict - but learning to put your relationship first and foremost can be a supremely effective path to resolution! At the heart of the closest, most harmonious [...]
Is Criticism Hurting Your Relationship?
By Katherine Caputo, Google Author All couples clash from time to time. It's healthy and it's natural! What matters is not the fact that you argue - it's how you argue that's important. One of [...]
How To Manage Conflict
Every couple is bound to experience conflict. What's important is how they approach it! Conflict can be a positive force in your relationship, helping it mature and develop as you start to understand each other [...]
How To Overcome The Stigma Of Couples Therapy
Relationship in trouble, but too afraid or ashamed to seek professional help? There is so often a stigma attached to couples therapy - perhaps more so than seeking therapy just for yourself. Read our latest [...]
Is Sleep Sabotaging Your Relationship?
By Piyali Syam, Google Author Do your partner’s early bird ways clash with your night owl habits? Birds of a feather may flock together, but when it comes to relationships, a night owl may get [...]
Your Relationship During Pregnancy
By Katherine Caputo, Google Author Most people realize that the relationship between couples can often go on the back burner in the aftermath of a new baby - but relationships can often take second place [...]
Navigating Families over the Holidays
By Harriet Pappenheim, Google Author Ah, holiday season. A time of merriment and festivity, of kicking back and relaxing, of spending precious time with your loved ones and rediscovering the joys of family bonds… or [...]
Your Relationship After Baby – What Happens Next?
By Katherine Caputo, Google Author Whether you’ve been married two years or twelve, having your first baby will turn your world upside down. The wonder of having created a new life together can inspire new [...]
Why have Premarital Counseling? 4 Key Questions!
By Piyali Syam, Google Author Planning a wedding is a whirlwind. You’ve booked the venue, sent out all the invitations, trimmed the guest list, and coordinated the entertainment, food, and photography. In the midst of [...]
College Applications – A Parent’s Survival Guide
By Piyali Syam, Google Author The beginning of the school year is fast approaching! For those of you with kids entering their senior year of high school, that means something big - college application season [...]
How to Avoid Empty Nest Syndrome
By Piyali Syam, Google Author With fall around the corner, kids around the country are heading off to that brave new world of college. It’s undoubtedly an adventure for them, but what does it mean [...]
What’s Your Love Language?
By Piyali Syam, Google Author Do you and your partner have trouble communicating with one another? Maybe you feel as though there’s a cavernous rift between you two—you try to say one thing, but he [...]
Dealing with Divorce
By Piyali Syam, Google Author Though the vow traditionally goes, “til death do us part,” half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. Of course, no one goes into a marriage thinking [...]
The Benefits of Taking a Couples Vacation
By Piyali Syam, Google Author It’s summer! The sun is hot, and the days are long. In other words, it’s the perfect time to get away, escape the daily grind and give yourself some much-needed [...]
Blending Families – 5 Tips For Successful Step-Parenting
By Piyali Syam, Editor - Google Author You’ve found the love of your life - maybe even set the date! But you’ll be bringing more than simply a ring to the wedding. When you and [...]
The Pay Gap, and Having the Confidence to Speak Up
By Piyali Syam, Blog Editor - Google Author “Ask and you shall receive,” or so the old saying goes. “To receive” is a passive verb, while “to ask” is an active verb, so the idea [...]
Roses are red, violets are blue, What does Valentine’s Day mean to you?
It seems as if every year there is a debate going on as to whether or not Valentine’s Day is a holiday to actually invest in. Aside from claims that Valentine’s Day is just a [...]
Who Defines Commitment? You Do.
In our lives there is a great deal of pressure on being committed in a relationship. But what does commitment really look like for a couple as the years go by? In 2011, Carlyle Jansen, [...]
You Are The Change That You Seek: Altering Your Own Behavior To Improve Your Relationship
In this video, Elizabeth Bernstein, a columnist from The Wall Street Journal, discusses what she believes is the best approach to transforming your spouse’s behavior. Rather than critiquing the actions or habits of a loved one that [...]
Happy New Year! Here’s To 2014!
It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me Ooh, And I’m feelin good. With a new year comes new beginnings and opportunities to learn [...]
How Deep Is Your Love? A Reflection On Interfaith Relationships
How deep is your love for your spouse? Your family? What about your religion? Of course, responses to such questions are not meant to be simple. A person’s connections with a spouse, with family members, [...]
On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy is Your Marriage?
In Monday’s Wall Street Journal, Elizabeth Bernstein presented a fascinating article entitled "How Happy Is Your Marriage?" As many relationship therapists have come to discover, Bernstein explains that there are benefits of evaluating marriages by using rate-your-relationship questionnaires for [...]
Family Ties: What Does Your Family Look Like?
Thanksgiving marks the beginning of yet another holiday season. Known as one of the more traditional of American holidays, Thanksgiving calls special attention to the importance of family. In recent years, however, the idea of [...]
Continuing Conversations About Body Image
Following along with the theme of last week's blog post surrounding natural beauty, it is crucial to evaluate how body image is related to the understanding of a person's sexuality. A positive body image fosters a [...]
Reflecting On Natural Beauty And Its Impact On Relationships
Mirror, mirror, on the wall... VIDEO: Dove "Real Beauty Sketches" Many of you may have come across this video put together by Dove this past spring. As a part of Dove’s “Real Beauty Sketches” [...]
Beyond Support
To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health… We’ve all heard these poetically crafted vows at one time or another, reminding [...]
Review: The Unavoidable Disappearance of Tom Durnin
First appeared on ArtsinNY.com The program describes the setting as “The American exurbs. Sam’s Clubs and SUVs and Caribou Coffee and the eerie, shuttered windows of foreclosed strip malls.” That’s a bit pretentious, but, fortunately, [...]
Victory for the LBGT Community
From an historical and humanistic perspective, I am delighted in the latest Supreme Court rulings in favor of marriage equality and that the number of States supporting this equality are increasing, thus furthering civil rights [...]
Angelina Jolie and Her Double Mastectomy
One has to be impressed with Angelina Jolie’s bravery and courage. A famous actress, known for her beauty, sensuality and sexuality, publically announces that her breasts have been removed. Angelina is an inspiration because, without [...]
Social Media’s Impact on Us and Our Children’s Capacity to Connect
I just read an interesting article in the New York Times that discussed the impact of Media on our health and happiness. The article stated that although instant electronic access provides tremendous convenience, there is [...]
America Finds Love at Wal-Mart
“Low prices, high romance? A study of Craig’s List missed connections finds the superstore is a romantic hotspot in 15 States.” MSN Money* While the above may not apply to an upscale New York City [...]
Money & Marriage
“PERFECT 10? NEVER MIND THAT. ASK HER FOR HER CREDIT SCORE.”* Couples serious about each other want to know everything about their potential partner’s past, including their sexual history, history of sexually transmitted diseases, past [...]
The Joy of Falling in Love and Marriage
The Sunday Review section of the New York Times has an article which is titled “New Love: A Short Shelf Live”. The article goes on to say that the thrill of falling in love has [...]
Life After Death, Part II
In my blog titled LIFE AFTER DEATH (1), I discussed the issues that can arise dealing with Wills and Inheritance, who gets what and who doesn’t and the conflicts that arise splitting families. This time [...]
Electronic Communication for Post Divorce Antipathy
The excellent article in the Sunday times, Nov. 25, on Post Divorce contact via electronic means ends with this paragraph: “As anyone who has ever quarreled electronically knows, keyboarded messages can nonetheless get testy. Humor, [...]
Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley
COMFORT WOMEN? Not meaning to be disrespectful to the tragic Korean women who were horribly abused by Japanese soldiers during World War II, the phrase “comfort women” does ring a bell these days. What is [...]
The Power of the Grid, A Life Unplugged
An article in the Sunday Styles section of the 11/11 NY Times comments on how hurricane Sandy affected people’s lives. “The storm provided a rare glimpse of a life lived offline. It drove some children [...]
The Political Divide: Politics and the Marital Relationship
Politics and the choice of political party or candidate can often impact on the marital relationship and be illustrative of how differences are handled and experienced by the couple in the marriage. Watching the republican [...]
Supermates
John Bowlby had researched how attachment styles can be consistent over a lifetime. Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. went further in their research studying how attachment styles impact romantic relationships in adults. [...]
College Grads and the Economy: Emotional Effects on the Individual and Family
It is estimated that up to 52% of college graduates between the ages of 22-25 are either unemployed, underemployed or employed by jobs that do not require a college degree. Many of these young adults [...]
Are We Dying for Heroes?
“The Dark Knight Rises” was sold out when I tried to see it. Admittedly, I haven’t seen the first two Batman movies either, though my 24 year-old client recommended them to me. She has seen [...]
“Crazy Busy”
Is busyness the new status symbol? Tim Kreider’s New York Times article from July 1, 2012 titled “The ‘Busy’ Trap,” explores how busyness can affect how we relate to each other. A friend asks, “How [...]
Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise
How extraordinary! That in this day and age, and in the United States, a democracy that believes in the rights of each individual man and woman, a sacred rite of marriage has been arranged in [...]
A Pedophile’s Claim of Innocence
Jerry Sandusky totally fits the profile of a pedophile. The term pedophile originates from the Latin roots meaning child love. Hidden under the perfect disguise of a popular, married, family man (now his adopted son [...]
The Healing Value of a Group for Horace Mann Alumni
As a group therapist who has led many groups including a group for women with histories of childhood sexual traumas since 1990, I am pleased with the ingenuity of the Horace Mann alumni who have [...]
Horace Mann’s Legacy of Sexual Abuse, Shame & Suicide
Suicide is often the final stop in the destructive, often intergenerational cycle of childhood sexual traumas. Frequently the perpetrator of such atrocities was abused him/herself and is thus reenacting a component of his/her own experience [...]
Money And Marriage
How money is handled in a relationship can cause a good deal of emotional distress. In the traditional relationship the woman stayed at home, took care of the children, handled all the social correspondence, as [...]
Pre-Marital Counseling
Pre-Marital Counseling is a solution a couple should try before they decide to marry. I have been seeing a number of people who come for Couple Counseling within the first year or two of marriage. [...]
Becoming A Parent and its Impact on the Marital Relationship
Raising a child can bring parents to the height of joy and the depths of despair as it impacts on the marriage in a myriad of ways. How can such an innocent, cuddly baby have [...]
Are Our Devices Separating Us?
Are our “communication” devices really helping us communicate or are they isolating couples and teens and teaching our teens distance rather than togetherness? Sherry Turkle, author of the acclaimed book Alone Together, questions if our [...]
The Corporate Couple – Gains and Losses
Many urban dual career couples graduating from prestigious colleges and universities look forward to being employed in high powered demanding jobs requiring grueling work hours and devotion to the corporation which rewards them with prosperous [...]
The Greatest Love Of All
The loss of Whitney Houston is with me. In 1988, I included lyrics of her song, “The Greatest Love of All,” in a case I wrote up involving a client with a history of childhood [...]
“You don’t send me flowers, anymore”
You remember the Barbara Streisand song, “you don’t send me flowers?” suggesting a loss of love? Well, that complaint resounds in my office before Valentine’s Day along with expectations and yes, sometimes demands for a [...]
Second Marriages
Do second marriages work better than first marriages? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. The choice of a life partner is complex and based on a myriad of issues: sexual attraction, shared goals and interests, ability to [...]
Weddings: Whose Are They Anyway?
Wedding planning can be the first major challenge a couple can encounter. Often considered as emblematic of the character and culture of the extended family, its regalia can become a forum for various expression of [...]
The Political Divide: Politics and the Marital Relationship
Politics and the choice of political party or candidate can often impact on the marital relationship and be illustrative of how differences are handled and experienced by the couple in the marriage. Watching the republican [...]
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher
One does have to feel sorry for Demi Moore. Not so much that her marriage to Ashton Kutcher broke up, but because she appears to be such a fragile person, someone who needs loving caretakers [...]
After Thanksgiving
We have now had a Thanksgiving Dinner and all the relatives have gone home, or you have gone home. Hopefully there was a lot of good cheer and enjoyable talk among those gathered at the [...]
Thanksgiving
These are a few of the quotes I found when I Googled “Thanksgiving.” “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by [...]
Thanksgiving and In-Laws
Many parents become anxious when faced with meeting prospective in-laws for the first time. This is especially true during the holidays, which have special meaning unto them selves. Holidays have always been a time for [...]
The Symbolic Significance of The Wedding Ring
With this ring I thee wed. “To Bills’ Quarterback, Losing (Wedding Ring) Is Not Option” Ryan Fitzpatrick, married nearly five and a half years, says he never removes his wedding band. Not when he clips [...]
Raising A Child As A Single Parent
Since 1950, the number of one-parent families has increased substantially. Separation and divorce are high on the list of adult life traumas. Add to them shared custody and you’re dealing with a multitude of conflicted [...]
Reflections of September 11th, 2001
In 2007 I interviewed 24 older adults between the ages of 65 and 93 in three senior centers in Lower Manhattan. All of the seniors interviewed were living within a 2.7 mile radius of Ground [...]
The Effects On Teen Girls Of Posting Too Much Online
I read a study recently that worried me and reminded me of some problems parents of teenage girls have been telling me about for the last couple of years. The study indicated that these girls [...]
Diversity in the Lesbian’s Right to Choose “I Do” or “I Don’t”
Visibility of lesbian partnerships has seemed to rocket lately. In addition to the “The Kids are Alright”, the July 25, 2011 cover of the New Yorker Magazine portrayed two lesbians strolling hand and hand, clad [...]
Dominique Strauss-Kahn and Tristane Banon
Well, we’ve come a long way Baby! At least in Manhattan. Certainly not in Paris where Tristane Banon, who was assaulted by Strauss-Kahn and nearly raped in 2003, is being excoriated in the French press [...]
Same Sex Couples and the Pressure to Marry!
Only a few weeks ago I wrote complaining that same-sex couples couldn’t get married in the state where I work. So make no never mind, NY just passed a same-sex marriage law so that everyone [...]
Food Makes The World Go Around
One’s relationship with food and one’s body size, shape and image may have a strong impact on the couple relationship. The need to have a perfect body, together with the need for admiration in the [...]
Chaz Bono’s Incredible Journey
Chaz Bono’s current tour for his book, which records his incredible journey of self-acceptance as he underwent his transition from Chastity, the woman, to Chaz, the man, has been met with predictable vitriol from conservative [...]
Money Troubles: Feeling Poor On A Million Dollars A Year
Couples who have a penthouse on Fifth Avenue overlooking Central Park, send their children to the most exclusive private schools, have a home in the Hamptons, and ski at Davos in the Swiss alps in [...]
Catherine Zeta Jones & Michael Douglas: A Relationship Beset by Bi-Polar Disorder
The experience of living with a partner who suffers from bi-polar disorder, or manic depressive illness, is akin to living on a roller coaster. One can surmise that Catherine Zeta Jones had been subject to [...]
Kate Middleton, The Duchess of Cambridge
One wonders what will happen to this beautiful woman who has decided to devote her life to a handsome prince and to walk behind him, shuffling like an ancient Chinese maiden, for the rest of [...]
“It’s Love at First Kill,” New York Times
More and more young people are finding new and creative ways to meet. Internet dating sites, Myspace, Facebook and other on line sites are in vogue. It’s a whole new world, but the love story [...]
So, Your Partner Has Had An Affair?
I thought that affairs might be an interesting topic to discuss, given the propensity of our public officials to engage in this type of behavior and to somehow involve us in it. Although I often [...]
It Ain’t Easy: Learning How To Listen
Who said living together is easy? How often have I heard: “he comes home, goes to his computer, or turns on the TV to hear the news even before he takes off his coat,” or [...]
Body Image, Plastic Surgery & Relationships
Body image, the manner in which the body is evaluated by one’s self, holds a significant contribution to expression of intimacy, sexuality and an overall sense of feeling lovable. For example, when shame is associated [...]
The Benefits to Your Health of Having Strong Relationships
The quality of people’s relationships really matters. Therapists have always known this, but now research has shown the same. The “Harvard Women’s Health Watch” expands on this by saying that good relationships influence our long [...]
Prenuptial Considerations
Is marriage an affair of the head, heart and soul, or a legal contract? One is romantic and the other practical. What do you think? If you want a pre-nuptial how would you get your [...]
Wills And Inheritance
Is there life after death? To whom do we leave our money and possessions when we die? How will it be received? Who gets what? Who gets left out and what is fair? My own [...]
Loving vs. Virginia
On June 12th 1967 in Loving vs. Virginia the laws against interracial marriage were finally repealed. It is hard to believe that it is only 43 years since that time. "Americans born in the 21st [...]
Same-Sex Marriage
The struggle continues for the rights of same sex couples to marry, and it promises to be a protracted battle. In the meantime, I am seeing more couples who call themselves "husband and husband" and [...]
She Feels, I Think
In my previous article we indicated that men and women often recreate distinct, unique interpretations from similar shared experiences. From a male perspective, when this occurs it frequently culminates in a derisive: “she feels, I [...]
Sex-Linked Human Behavior
In our last article, we approached the significant grapple the past often inflicts upon present thoughts, emotions and actions. This behavior pattern, better known as transference, can exist in both conscious and unconscious states of [...]
Past Is Present
In our last article we explored how the past intrudes upon the present and ardently influences the emotional quality of a relationship. Most people accept this at face value, an important face of life not [...]
Commitment Troubles
One can infer that a female’s comfort level with commitment allows other components of personality to emerge. The man, however, frequently feels locked in by commitment. These characteristics are not always sex linked, as a [...]
When Does the Purr Turn into a Growl?
When does the purr turn into a growl? The answer usually is after the honeymoon, when the couple moves from the courtship or romantic phase to a real object relationship. One can infer that a [...]
The Lion and the Lioness
Before Marriage After Marriage After scrolling across two newspaper photographs of a lion and lioness, I couldn’t help but stop and ponder over the intrigue surrounding their behavior. In the first photo, we witness the [...]